Remove shame or guilt!
Somehow, society has developed this attitude or energy towards sexual desire, sexual exchange.
It feels like sexual desire for someone is something that people should be ashamed of.
Why did it come to that?
Take this example:
Suppose you are a woman.
You go to a party.
You start chatting with this guy.
You start feeling aroused by his presence.
You start having fantasies about having sex with him right there.
Now, would you tell him?
Of course not, right?
The question is: WHY?
Is it "inappropriate"?
Is it insulting?
Do you diminish him or yourself in any way by feeling sexual desire towards him?
Something is happening in your mind and body right there.
This thing is sexual desire.
It is because of sexual desire that people have sex, procreate and each one of us is alive on this planet because of it!
We should be thankful for sexual desire and celebrate each time we feel it!
It is a delicious emotion that brings sparks of energy in people's lives.
Where did the shame come from?
Who defines what's appropriate or not?
Why would sex be something dirty that needs to be hidden?
Do you realize how much these beliefs shape society and human interactions?
In the example I mentioned above, what you really say when you express your desire to have sex with him is:
"I find you incredibly attractive and while I enjoy this conversation with you, I feel like touching your body and kissing your lips.
I want to remove your clothes, be naked together and engage in a sexual dance with you. I am filled with desire to be in each other's arms..."
You just gave him a whole set of delicious compliments.
You told him that you like him, appreciate his male energy and are profoundly touched by his presence.
You feel a connection and want to express that connection.
That's what I see.
Sexual desire is a gift!
Feeling it is a blessing!