You will often uncover that you both pretty much want the same.
Here are some ideas to start a conversation on boundaries:
- "How physical do you think it is ok for us to be with other people?..."
- "Would it bother you if I was flirty with another guy in your presence?"
- "What exactly would bother you?"
- "Do you feel that the same boundary must apply to both of us or just one of us?"
This is a constructive conversation because there is no finger pointing or accusation.
You are not telling him what to do
You ask for feed back.
You ask open ended questions.
You ask him to share.
This is why it gives him space to express what he feels.
The result? You design boundaries TOGETHER!
Because he designed the solution together with you, he embraces that choice rather than resenting it!