If you felt challenged in the past with your love life, I know exactly how you feel.
One of the main tests is this one:
Loving someone who does not love you back to the same extent.
You can feel emotionally challenged when he is in your mind taking too much space.
His presence in your mind can literally overpower you.
It can make you feel vulnerable and powerless.
If you want to win this "emotional test" you need two things:
Extra power and effective strategies.
This is a battle for power:
Who is in charge of your life?
Who has the greatest influence over what happens in your life?
If a guy’s attitude, thoughts or feelings rules the way you think and the way you feel, then you loose control over your life.
It is simple: even when you are in love, you still want to be the one in charge of your life.
Why is that?
Because life is so much more enjoyable when you are the one who is in the control seat.
You are in control of your life, not his.
He is in charge of his life. You are in charge of yours.
Don’t give up you power the moment you feel love for a man.
When you give some love, you don’t have to give up your life.
Stay the center of your existence!
From that inner place of emotional security, you share life and energy with someone who responds to it to the same extent.
It is an exchange!
When you fall in love or have a crush, a battle starts.
This battle happens in your mind.
It is a battle for control.
It is a conflict between two energy realities.
On one side, there is you.
On the other side there is him.
When you loose the battle and start feeling love ache in any way, he literally takes over your life.
You don’t want this to happen!
You want to stay in control of your life.
In other terms, you need to stay in the control seat and kick him out of it the moment he tries to overpower you.
It is a battle.
It is a battle for your own life and emotional autonomy.
You want to be in love and stay in charge of your life!
It is very simple.
Don't "abandon yourself" in your love quest.
The dating equation is always to enjoy your love life at 100%.
This won’t happen if you abandon yourself
This article is a new and refreshing mind set.
It gives you all the tools to stay in charge even when you are in love.
This is not about controlling your relationship. It is about staying in control of your life.
This is your number 1 priority!
Right now, you have two options:
· The first one is to loose yourself next time you are in love. You'll start feeling insecure, missing him a lot, being overtaken by a flow of emotions without knowing how to deal with them. If it does not work out, you might eventually be so scared of falling in love again that you will altogether shut down to men and relationships.
· The second one is to wake up your full power now and discover effective strategies to thrive with your love experience rather than suffering from it.
Why do we say: "falling in love"?
Because for many women, this is often how it feels.
You want this to change!
It doesn't need to be that way.
You want to wake up your full senses of joy, pleasure and fun and stay in charge of your life.
You don't have to give away the control seat to be happy.
You want your love experience to be exciting and freeing!
You want the perfect mind set and refreshing tools which allow you to fully enjoy love.
Here are some powerful strategies you can apply right now:
· Be in contact with more than one man. Why is that? Because the moment you do, you make sure that you stay the center of your universe. When you are in love, you become magnetically attractive to the opposite sex. Go with it! Flirt and stay open. Commit yourself only when it's 100% clear it is a two ways thing.
· You are in charge! You decide what you want and when you want it. No one will boss you around or tell you what to do. Don't let anyone tell you what to do! Give your love, not your power. You are in control of your life. Stay in charge!
· Enjoy at 100%! You enjoy by focusing on the moment right now. Make sure that you stay centered in the present. Future plans and security come after. The first love skill is to enjoy right now what is in front of you. This is a gift!
· Keep the mystery alive! Don't reveal your strategies. Protect your territory by keeping aspects of your life for yourself.
· Be ready any time! He can cheat, leave or not return your calls. This can happen any time. Be ready for it. Stay awake! Have a strategy for every situation. You stay a winner always!
· Invest one step at a time! If you give too much too soon, you'll crash. Guaranteed! Give a little, step back and let them respond. Too high expectations kill your love. Stay real!
· Give each other space! Having a couple of contacts in the week is okay. Spending 24 hours a day with each other in the early stages will asphyxiate any new relationship. Stay socially active, challenge yourself and keep investing in your career or studies.
You want one simple thing: enjoy your love experience.
The way to go is not to fall in the first place: it is to thrive.
The idea of succeeding with love has nothing to do with staying with a man for a life time. This can of course be part of the story but the real success has to do with the way you stand in it.
You can master your love life.
This is what you want to do right now.
No more pain!
No more hurt.
You are in charge.
Love is one of the key energies in your life.
It is one magic gift given to you.
Now, if you ad this dimension of power to it, you multiply its effect.
You want the own the tools to empower your love life.