It is hard to accept but the dating world is a competitive environment. If you are not in the top 3 in a guy's mind, there are little chances he'll ask you out.
Girls or women can be truly tuff, projecting sparks of loaded judgment on each other. As a guy, I was truly chocked the first time I observed this "psychic battle" going on.
Don't think: "Wish this was different". Instead shift your attitude and see the dating world slightly more as a battle field. Develop your natural weapons and defend yourself. Your weapons are your mind power and the ability to overcome challenges and rejection.
What are the challenges? Other women's judgment, their competitive attitude, possible rejection from men, etc. All these challenges have the same solution: extra power and confidence.
A negative judgment is an attack on your being! Don't let the arrow pierce you through: deflect it before it even hits you. Build a shield. Build a protection
When you are warned and prepared, it is much easier! Stay awake!
Realize, this is a major shift in your mind! Evolve in the dating scene like a martial artist! Aware! Awake!