Rehearse a bit before you go.
Here is your "battle" plan:
- Be relaxed
- No sentimentalism
- Stay cool
- Sort out what you need to sort out
- Keep it short
Make sure you keep it on a light respectful note.
- Beg him to come back to you
- Attack him or blame him
- Try to control any part of his life
- Get jealous if he mentions other women
- Have or hope for sex
Meeting an ex is always a high risk moment where fight triggers can tease you any time.
So, meet him armed with an ABSOLUTE determination to keep it on a light note.
If you feel this meeting is turning bitter, smile, give him a hug or a kiss, tell him you will call him again at another time and LEAVE!
It is simply not worth wasting any more energy fighting.