There is nothing shallow or cheap about being sexy.
This is the first association to delete in your mind.
Sexy! Strong! Beautiful! Smart! Attractive!
... are all positive qualities!
You can develop a sexy attitude you really enjoy and play with it to create what you want.
Being shallow, slutty, vulgar, loud are the other extreme, right?
These are the real turn offs.
So, choose the qualities that make you attractive and don't get mixed up.
Guys ARE attracted to sexyness!
That's a quality women envy that gives you a solid advantage in any social situation.
You can chose exactly how sexy you want to be of course.
The key is:
Don't hide your feminine beauty!
Be sexy and beautiful!