I do not know if I am "in love" with him

I do not know if I am "in love" with him

I have been dating a WONDERFUL man for 5 months. Neither of us have been married before but we are both sure that we want to marry each other. I cannot imagine anyone being as good to me as he is.

He makes me very happy and says that I make him very happy as well. He is 100% sure that he is in love with me but I do not know if I am "in love" with him.

I sometimes wonder if my motives for marrying him are selfish (because I think that he would be a very good husband and I would always do my best to be a good wife).

Everyone keeps telling me you have to be "in love" with the person. I am not even sure what that means anymore. Should I consider marrying him under these circumstances?

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Hi,

How are you today?

Congratulations for that. Looks like an exciting step for the two of you.

The feeling of being in love is a very key emotion or energy. It is not the only component of marriage though. Personality traits, personal situation, past, fun, pleasure, connections... There are so many dimensions to a relationship. Feeling or being in love is one of them.

I feel that what you are missing is one simple part fo the puzzle. It is an important one of course.

Can I ask you a couple of questions? To find the answer to your question, it would be good if you could quickly answer them and send them back to me...


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Have you been in love before meeting this man?

How high is the level of passion in your relationship? (0-100%)


Have you ever met someone that turned you on much more than this present man does? (I don't mean just sexually, I mean emotional excitement)

Are you a loving person in general. I mean, do you feel like you care a lot for people, nature, your family, etc? (0-100%)

Is this feeling of being in love something which is missing in your life in general or is it missing in this relationship only?

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Looking forward to read your answers

Enjoy!

Francisco