Get ready to date!

Hi,

Getting ready to date means understanding what's on the way and knowing where you want to go.

What can be on the way to you being successful are fears, doubts, negative past experiences, lack of knowledge, lack of skills, etc. If you are unsure about where you want to go or where you want to be, there are good chances you won't leave your starting blocks.

The first step is knowing what you want: do you want to simply date? have fun? find Mr. Right? Do you want a long term steady relationship? With what kind of man do you want to be? etc. This is not limiting your choice! You are not closing doors here, simply pointing out the right direction for you.

Next step is understanding who you are! Write down the top 10 key qualities you have to offer. Write down 5 key qualities you certainly don't want to express in the dating scene. If you were meeting yourself somewhere, would you date yourself, yes? yes why? no? no why? If the answer is no, do something about it.

Third step is strategy. The dating world is a competitive environment. You have to get there ready for the challenge. What's the challenge? Possibility to face judgment, rejection every now and then, doubts, etc. It's all a game, so take everything lightly. On the other hand, it's huge fun if you simply accept the dating world for what it is: an opportunity to grow, understand yourself, develop meaningful relationships with people, a place to create, be creative and share your passions, desires and excitement with others.

Fourth step: understand your past. You don't want anything standing on the way to you having a great time. You need to be free, feel free emotionally. If you feel trapped in negative mind frames, identify what is going on! Identify the underlying dynamics and don't be afraid to go there. This is not therapy, it's a "freedom move" which allows you to eliminate any conflicting forces in your mind!

Enjoy! It's gonna be fun!